Somebody ought to start a blog about meeting for the first time . . .
Meeting people. Being introduced. Introducing yourself. First impressions. Shaking hands.
The old cliche says, “A first impression is a lasting (or important) impression.” Maybe it’s true somehow, but I find myself forgetting most of the ways I met some of my best friends. I have a theory about this!
First impressions are sometimes all that you know about a person. If you really want to know them, however, and get to know them, then you share experiences that overwrite the first impressions. (To the grammar conscious: I realize that because my antecedent is person that my ensuing pronoun should be singular, but I really hate writing “he or she,” so I refuse to do it in informal settings. My apologies.)
Some people get a little nervous when they first meet someone.
It would be cool to see a blog that documents all the first meetings of a person, for say a year or so. It could even follow the development of relationships (Although, that might be a little creepy? What do you think?). It could give examples of good first meetings, and not-so-good ones, and tips of how to improve people-meeting skills.
Today was actually one of the most awkward introductions I’ve ever had. I’ll change names to protect the identities of all involved victims (Well, there were only two victims, and I was one of them. You already know my name, so I’ll keep my name the same.):
Me: Hey, I’m Celeste.
Woman: Charlene. (I didn’t change this name, because it’s not a real person, and thus not a victim.)
Me: (Thinking to myself) I thought her name was Melissa? (Aloud) So, your name is Charlene?
Woman: No, I’m Melissa. I thought you were Charlene?
Me: My name is Celeste.
For me, it was some consolation that at least people are getting a little more original. I can’t tell you how many times in my life I’ve been called Chelsea. On the other hand, I had no idea how to redeem the situation. The world needs some faithful person to blog about how to handle those mysterious first-time meetings.